First Look vs. Aisle Reaction
The first time you see your husband or wife on your wedding day is a moment that you will remember forever. So now there is the question of whether you want to see them as they are walking down the aisle or during an intimate pre-ceremony first look. This is a tough decision that many couples go back and forth on. To be honest, I don’t even know what I will do at my wedding! Every couple is unique and every wedding is different so there is no right or wrong answer, but hopefully these tidbits about my experiences help you decide what is going to work best for you on your wedding day.
I will admit, I am a huge fan of first looks. Wedding days are busy and an intimate meeting just before your wedding ceremony allows you to spend some quality time together before you walk down the aisle. If you are nervous at all on the wedding day, first looks are a great way to get those nerves out before the wedding ceremony. There is no pressure of 100 guests watching you as you try to hold back tears, and let’s be honest, those tears make for great wedding video and photos. The genuine, raw emotion that we see in first looks are some of my favourite moments of a wedding video. If you are a bit camera shy and are sharing this moment with your photographer and videographer, a first look might be a bit intimidating. Rest assured, we do our best to stay as out of the way as possible and truly allow you to experience this moment as if you are the only two people in the world.
The reason this decision can be so difficult is because the traditional aisle reaction is also great. The first time you see your soon to be husband or wife is the moment you are walking toward one another, ready to commit to forever in front of your closest friends and family. This realization can lead to some of the most tear jerking, overwhelmingly emotional, and genuine reactions. From the eyes of a wedding videographer, I often catch myself watching the groom’s reaction more than the bride walking down the aisle! The next wedding you attend, try it – you won’t regret it. Sharing this moment with those you love most moments before you say “I Do” is extremely special. If you are nervous about the wedding ceremony and about being the center of attention, a first look might be a better option – you can comfort one another and prepare for the big moment ahead!
A great “first look” option that I’ve seen for couples that are nervous but still want the aisle reaction is to meet but not actually see one another. This could be a back to back meeting, holding hands through a cracked open door, or you could even do it blindfolded! This way you still haven’t SEEN each other before the aisle, but you can ease those nerves and find comfort in each other’s presence before heading up to recite your vows.
I love capturing and witnessing all of these “first looks” and cannot say that one option is better than the other. Whatever you decide will be the best choice for you and your wedding day and it will be beautiful. I’d love to hear your thoughts on a first look vs. the aisle reaction in the comments below!